Tuesday, 17 February 2009

Nancy 200502.6

460 Grayson Perry's Dcoumentary on Cross-dressing


(Curtsey)
Dear Madam Rebecca, Mistresses and sissies,

A programme is being broadcast in the UK purporting to be a sensitive look at transvestitism. It's on Channel 4 on Wednesday 16th February, 2005 a

t 9pm GMT.
The accompanying photo in The Radio Times (despite its name, it's primarily a television guide!) shows what can only be described as a sissy dressed as a little girl with a matching dolly who looks like she'd be a real asset to the group, given the picture seems to be have been taken in public. Unfortunately, I've been unable to find the photograph on either Channel 4's or The Radio Times' websites.

Set your video recorders!

Love,
Cissy Pansy
(Curtsey)

Here ya go. :)

"Why Men Wear Frocks"
Feb. 16, @ 9pm, Ch. 4, UK
From The Radio Times site

"Turner prize winner and cross-dresser Grayson Perry explores transvestitism and makes distinctions between being a transvestite, being a drag queen, being gay and dressing up on a stag night. Perry asserts that if cross-dressing is a flight from masculinity, then masculinity must be attended to, and he investigates the difficulty of being a man."

from: http://www.twofour.co.uk/broadcast/news_item.asp?newsID=169

TURNER PRIZE WINNING GRAYSON PERRY ASKS WHY STRAIGHT MEN WEAR FROCKS IN DOC FOR CHANNEL 4

Grayson Perry, happily married 44-year old cross-dressing potter and Turner Prize winner, is to make a film for Channel 4 about what it feels like to be a transvestite.

In the fine art world, Grayson Perry has two unique selling points. One is his expressive pottery and the other is Claire. His transvestite alter ego is a regular feature throughout his work.
Why Men Wear Frocks with Grayson Perry is commissioned by Jan Younghusband, the head of arts at Channel 4. “Grayson is planning to take an intelligent and witty look at contemporary attitudes to masculinity,” she says.

In the film Grayson asks other people from the transgender community to explore why they want to dress in women’s clothes. “Cross-dressing is a complicated kind of flight from masculinity and the way it’s policed, so it’s the masculinity we should attend to, not just the cross-dressing. Ultimately, Why Men Wear Frocks is about the difficulty of being a man at this time,” says Grayson Perry.

Wish I could see it, but Canada doesn't have Channel Four. :(
Maybe it'll be rebroadcast here some day,
Beth :)

(Curtsey)
Dear Beth,

Trust me, that's not the photograph that was in The Radio Times!

I'll have to see if I can scan and post it, but the original's only a thumbnail.

Love,
Cissy Pansy
(Curtsey)

(Curtsey)
Dear Beth,

On the other hand, this is!

Love,
Cissy Pansy
(Curtsey)

(Curtsey)

Dear Madam Rebecca, Mistresses and sissies,

Why Do men Wear Frocks?
The programme was broadcast on Wednesday 16th February. It was presented and narrated by Grayson Perry, whose photograph, in different outfits, Beth and I have already posted. Naturally, my video recorder chewed the tape within two seconds, so this is written from memory.
It started at a cross-dressers' convention in Scarborough, North Yorkshire. He spoke to a number of TVs and was honest enough to discuss the sexual aspects of cross-dressing. He also interviewed a Wife and asked Her opinions.
Next, he visited a bikers' rally (he's also a motorcyclist) and made some comparisons with the dressing-up required to participate in the sport and cross-dressing.
An interview with a pre-operative trans-sexual followed, when he was keen to draw distinctions between TVs and TSs. In this he was helped by the TS who was keen to distance him/Herself from males.
He met a group of older teenage boys and they discussed what was acceptable behaviour in a male. Their opinions were surprisingly liberal and mature.
A potted history of cross-dressing followed. Until the mid-nineteenth century, cross-dressing was a female-to-male pastime, mainly due to social conventions which repressed Women. However, from the late eighteenth century, male dress became more and more drab, just as Female dress become more and more Feminine and, as a result, cross-dressing became more of a male pastime until now it is almost exclusively so. This section was illuminated with an interview with a historian whose area of expertise this was and who owned hundreds of period dresses! He also visited the Museum of London and explored their collection of Victorian costumes. These were contrasted with the fashions worn on the street by modern Women.
At a Saville Row tailor he explored the narrow limits of male fashion but spoke with a dandy who did not feel so constrained. It was posited that dandyism presented a more conventional safety valve, so to speak. (I'm not convinced: I'm a dandy, but I simply adore being a sissy!)
The modern Female's freedom of choice was explored at a Bridal store, with a Bride-To-Be and Her Mother agreeing They had no need to dress in a Feminine manner, but it was fun so to do for weddings.
The penultimate interview was at a goth nightclub, where some males were dressing very effeminately. One such described himself not as a cross-dresser but as a pretty boy. It reminded me very much of the New Romantics of the early 1980s and photographs I've seen of regulars at the Blitz Club. Think frilly shirts and make-up; not so much glam-rock as glamorous-rock! (Guess what? I was never a New Romantic but, to this day, that's my music).
Finally, he visited a Lady who ran a TV-dressing service and accompanied Her and some of Her clients to lunch, all en Femme. Unlike the cross-dressers at the convention, whose talent varied enormously, these were all superbly made-up and dressed. Only a close inspection (or a single syllable) would reveal they weren't Female. She mentioned that Her clients were from all walks of life and were often otherwise very 'macho.' Her clients spoke of how it allowed them an escape from their exclusively-male world and made them nicer people. Her reaction to this, I should be so lucky to be able to escape my life, brought vigorous nods of sympathy from my Wife.
Being presented by a transvestite, the programme was sympathetic to cross-dressers, but this was not about Femme Domme, forced Feminization or sissies. Nor did we get to see him in the gorgeous outfit which graced The Radio Times!
Love,
Cissy Pansy
(Curtsey)
Was this on in the US? Seems like an interesting show. I checked Tivo and could not find it.
Cynthia
(Curtsey)
Dear Cynthia,
No, I'm afraid this was broadcast in the UK on Channel 4. However, I've just realized Channel 4 has a cable/satellite channel called E4 (I think: we're strictly terrestrial) so if you have that in your package you might get to see it. Otherwise, it's just a case of hoping a US broadcaster buys it.
Love,
Cissy Pansy
(Curtsey)
I don’t know if one of these is the photo that you were looking for?
I found them by entering Grayson Perry into the search engine on the BBC homepage (http://www.bbc.co.uk/)
ATB
abbie
(Curtsey)
Dear Abbie,
Thank you!
These weren't the photos I mentioned, which I attached to a previous letter, but they are very good and in a similar vein.
Love,
Cissy Pansy
(Curtsey)

Monday, 16 February 2009

Nancy 200502.5

459 Vanilla Sex Poll

Enter your vote today! A new poll has been created for the trainedhusbandshappywives2 group:

Do you still have vanilla sex with your Domme/sissy?

  • What's the point when there are so many bulls around?
  • Not with a chastity device on 24/7.
  • No, kinda hard once you've been seen in heels and a dress.
  • It has decreased over time with the help of more training and discipline.Yes, I am more of a scener, and not really a 24/7 type.

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Note: Please do not reply to this message. Poll votes are not collected via email. To vote, you must go to the Yahoo! Groups web site listed above.

Thanks!

This is an excellent example of why I think almost all of these polls should have an option for "other." I don't have a Domme or dom, and have not had sex with another person in eleven years.

Hugs,
Jeanette

(Curtsey)
Dear Jeanette,

I agree.

How about this:
I am the sissy. My wife loves me dearly and helps the sissy me because of the pleasure I derive from it. It does nothing sexual for Her. We both take our wedding vows seriously, so making a cuckold of me is not an option. Nevertheless, my wife is a normal red-blooded Female who enjoys penile penetration of Her vagina. She has tried toys, but She doesn't derive the same pleasure from them. (I believe Sissie has also written how she notices a real difference between strap-on penetration and being fucked by a male). So, unless my Wife is to live a life of chastity as a result of a choice I've made, vanilla it is. Besides, it's very enjoyable.

Love,
Cissy Pansy
(Curtsey)

Dear Cissy Pansy,
I am in a similar situation as you in that I too am the "sissy" in a married monogamous relationship with a most adorable Woman whom I am fortunate enough to call my Wife. She actually "enjoys" my Girlishness and encourages me to explore more and more of my inherent Femininity. She is "somewhat" bi and so this is NOT a major step for Her and rather enjoyable. I am certainly a VERY LUCKY SISSY in that I LIVE the life so many of us want. We do use toys on occasion but like your Wife, She enjoys penetration with me also. We have recently discovered that we can attain orgasm while rubbing our crotches together without me having a hard on. It's really quite amazing that I can have an orgasm WITHOUT being erect and that it is so intensely satisfying. I am learning to cum as a woman and it gives BOTH of us a lot of pleasure. We sound very similar in our relationships and I do so enjoy talking to others that LIVE our lifestyle, so PLEASE feel free to contact me at any time and talk about the loves of our lives.
Cindy

(Curtsey)
Dear Cindy,

Please accept my apologies for taking so long to write back.

I'd love to chat, but I'd prefer to do it through the group. I suspect a lot of members would like to read what we might have to say (though I'm not claiming that anyone would learn everything: it's just how I feel when members take chats off-line!)

I'd love to know how you manage to climax in this manner. My Wife adores being teased by me rubbing my little wiggle along Her lips, but I need to be stiff for it to work. Whereas I have climaxed without my little wiggle being stiff, it's always been as the result of masturbation (and often very unsatisfactory). In order to climax, my Wife always needs to play with Herself. Though She can cum without having me inside Her, She does prefer penetration, even if it's right at the last minute.

My Wife is not at all Lesbian and although She's not at all offended by Lesbians as People, She finds the idea of Lesbianism a turn-off. For this reason, my sissiness is not a turn-on either. Also, She does like to pretend to be a little submissive in bed and I have problems maintaining stiffness if She takes the lead (which softness I find so frustrating, as I'm invariably incredibly horny when She does).

I hope you're able to write back.

Love,
Cissy Pansy
(Curtsey)

Dear Cissy Pansy,

I understand how you feel. I am in the "extremely" fortunate position of having a "WIFE" who knows and ENJOYS (same sex play) and as I said encourages me to be so very, very Feminine. We try ALL kinds of games, mostly inspired by me, but nonetheless we play and I am eternally grateful for the opportunity to experience these wonderful feelings. You and I are EXTREMELY fortunate to have met WOMEN that are receptive of our desires and as you, I am highly aware of it. Our lives are quite normal, in most circumstances, but at least we DO have our weekends to explore each others fantasies. I will post only to the group, if you wish, for I have NOTHING to hide, but only pride.

Cindy

The following trainedhusbandshappywives2 poll is now closed. Here are the final results:

POLL QUESTION: Do you still have vanilla sex with your Domme/sissy?

CHOICES AND RESULTS

  • What's the point when there are so many bulls around? 5 votes, 9.62%
  • Not with a chastity device on 24/7, 7 votes, 13.46%
  • No, kinda hard once you've been seen in heels and a dress, 17 votes, 32.69%
  • It has decreased over time with the help of more training and discipline., 11 votes, 21.15%
  • Yes, I am more of a scener, and not really a 24/7 type., 12 votes, 23.08%
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Nancy 20050210

454 Cissy Pansy 10.02.2005

(Curtsey)
Dear Madam Rebecca, Mistresses and sissies,

Yippee!

My new shoes have arrived in time for our holiday next week. (We always take the week of St Valentine's Day). I collected them from the Post Office this morning and couldn't wait to get home and try them on this evening. Mistress lent me a pair of pop socks and both pairs of shoes fit!

The Ally pair is slip-on in style and has a low heel but Mistress says they're perfectly suitable for public wear. The Sunshine pair resemble Mary Janes but with a wide T-bar. Mistress has even given me permission to wear them as sandals with shorts in the Summer!

They weren't cheap but they are UK size 9 (USA 11; Europe 43) (which is the largest they make) and I've even bought the Sunshine in extra-wide fitting, though not all styles are available as such. I'm wearing the Ally pair as I write and they're very comfortable - much more so than my Mary Jane's. They also make several pairs of lace-ups which look more masculine (as well as male shoes), so I'll be getting my next pair of 'ordinary' shoes here, too (though that's not likely to be for many years when my existing male shoes wear out and also assuming I'm not much more properly Feminized by then). For anyone who's interested, the address is www.hottershoes.com

May you all be as happy as me!

Love,
Cissy Pansy
(Curtsey)

Nancy 200502.4

449 sissy Demeanour In Public

(Curtsey)
Dear Madam Rebecca, Mistresses and sissies,

When I'm a male, I stride down the street, looking people in the eye. I can't pass as a Female, but I do go out to local shops dressed completely (bar shoes and that's only temporary) en Femme. I am wary of attracting attention to myself in case someone realizes I'm wearing Ladies' clothes, so I don't stand tall and I avoid eye contact: basically, my demeanour is much more submissive, though I'll still look directly at a Shop Assistant. Is this normal? Is it likely to avoid drawing attention to me?

Yours sincerely,
Cissy Pansy
(Curtsey)


Dear Cissy Pansy,

Submission is only part of the proper attitude of a sissy; complete respect and being very polite are others. Yes, it is normal for the clothing to affect the person and this is the major reason I advocate the Feminisation of a male.

Madam Rebecca

Nancy 200502.3

448 Knee Pads


Curtsey)
Dear Madam Rebecca, Mistresses and sissies,

Yesterday I scrubbed the kitchen floor and wiped the dining room floor on my hands and knees, which was quite painful on my knees. Is it acceptable for a sissy Maid to wear knee pads on such occasions?

Yours sincerely,
Cissy Pansy
(Curtsey)

Hi,

I think that sissies should often wear knee pads.

A cd mistress I had, required me to have dainty kneepads with lace or ruffled trim. I had to have them in my purse along with a bib as well, in case I was called upon to service her orally.

Phil Ferris

Dear Cissy Pansy,

The sissy Maid should be equipped to do the job properly. It's not about inflicting pain on a sissy who is serving as a sissy Maid should so if your knees hurt while you were in my service you get the knee pads you deserved. I prefer a sissy Maid to scrub on her knees and not use a mop, by the way.

Madam Rebecca

Hello, Madam Rebecca. :)

Might I enquire as to the preference between the two? I'm guessing that it's a better clean to use the scrub brush instead of the mop?

Unless of course there is another more "sissy" reason you prefer that I'm not aware of.

Be well,
Beth :)

Hounoured Madam Rebecca,

May I put my thinking on this matter into the discussion? There are several advantages for a Maid to scrub a floor on her knees. One; she is a position which shows clearly her inferior status. Two; you can get more pressure with a scrubbing brush and the floor is cleaner. Three; you can get right into the corners. Four; you can see much easier if the floor is clean enough and five; with a suitable sponge or cloth you can almost dry the floor so it can be walked on much sooner. Oh and six; if your Mistress decides you are not working hard enough you are in a convenient position for some correction or encouragement to be adiminstered.

I am right up to date on this matter as I scrubbed Mistress Alexis' kitchen floor this afternoon.

Maid Angela

(Curtsey)
Dear Beth,

Far be it from me to tell you what Madam Rebecca thinks (as I have been told by Her in as many words), but it seems to me that the purpose of scrubbing floors on hands and knees is not to do with efficiency or effectiveness but servitude and submission. I surmise it is precisely because it is less efficient and effective that She prefers it to be done on hands and knees. Besides, it is far more revealing (of panties and stockings and suspenders) for a sissy to be working in this position and this must surely be far more attractive a sight to any Lady Who is aroused by sissies. Madam Rebecca has often written of how the thought of Sissie scrubbing their kitchen floor on her hands and knees while She is enjoying sex with a man greatly enhances Her pleasure. I'm just glad She doesn't require us to use a toothbrush!

Yours sincerely,
Cissy Pansy
(Curtsey)

Thank you, Cissy Pansy, for your input. I wasn't sure if that was a part of it, and didn't want to assume. I would imagine it's both reasons.

Take care,
Beth :)

Deep curtsey to All and chaste kisses to all the other sissy Maids.

Ms. M always requires that all floors etc must be scrubbed on my knees to ensure perfection and to assure my utmost submissiveness. I asked about knee pads once and, to my regret, Ms. M said my skirts were padding enough and that I must accept doing my work without too many modern conveniences such as a mop. They are both too easy and the chore is just not well done.

Deep curtsey,
Ms. M's sissy housemaid Tanya

Scrubbing the floor will get it cleaner than just using a mop but I also like to see a sissy down on his knees scrubbing the floor: it always puts a smile on My face.

Madam Rebecca

Very well said, First, First Maid Angela.

I know you speak with a great deal of experience, I have seen many wonderful photos of you on your hands and knees scrubbing the floor! I have one more reason listed in my answer.

Madam Rebecca

Dear Cissy,

You have mentioned some good points but it is more effective to scrub a floor on your hands and knees. A mop does a fast job while a hand scrubbing does a quality job. Mops tend to leave things along the edges and do not always remove ground in dirt or stains that require elbow grease! I have required a sissy to use a toothbrush now and then but it is for punishment for not doing a good job in the first place. To require a Maid to use a toothbrush all the time just to do it is rather a waste of labour and makes little sense.

Madam Rebecca

And my wife just had new tile floors installed on the hallways and kitchen.

Donna
Deep curtsey

One of Ms. M's innovations to improve cleanliness has been to replace the upright vacuum cleaner with an old style tubular one that uses a hose. To keep me close to my work, the steel tubes are removed and the attachments are connected directly to the hose. I have to kneel to do the chore but I can put more pressure on the rug, and get into the corners better.
She has me use a toothbrush as a punishment for floors also, but sometimes compromises and lets me use a nail brush; a bit faster but just as tedious.

Deep curtsey,
Ms. M's sissy Maid Tanya

Good Afternoon Madam Rebecca,

This is my first time e-mailing so please forgive me if it is not proper. I just wanted to add that if a sissy hurts herself because she is not wearing knee pads then she is of little use to anyone.

There is a saying my Mistress likes to use and it goes "a sick sissy is a burden to her Mistresss." Healthy sissies are also more attentive.

Respectfully yours,
Amber

(Curtsey)
Dear Madam Rebecca, Mistresses and sissies,
The greatest improvement my Wife and I made to the cleanliness of our house was when we bought a Dyson bagless vacuum cleaner. The first time I used it, I left the filters open by mistake and still filled the cylinder and that was just from our living room (approx 12'x10'). I realised my error and re-cleaned the room. I filled the cylinder again. I swear, it cleans the foundations! It's so good, I have to fight my Wife to use it!

Love,
Cissy Pansy
(Curtsey)

(Curtsey)
Dear Madam Rebecca, Mistresses and sissies,

Many thanks to all of you who replied to this letter several weeks ago. I, and my knees especially, am grateful.

The overwhelming consensus seemed to be yes.

However, when I've searched for kneepads on-line I've been unable to find anything suitably sissy. I'm fine if I'm a construction worker or skateboarder, but not if I'm a Maid, Housewife or Cleaner. Could some kind person point me in the right direction and preferably within the UK?

Thank you for your help.

Love,
Nancy
(Curtsey)

Some garden places sell pads for kneeling outside in the garden and since they are made for Ladies they sometimes have Feminine designs, but if they don't you could always paint or colour some sissy designs on them yourself to make them appropriate for a sissy to kneel on.

Jack

Honey,

You should make your own.

Just get some foam rubber and tie it to your knee with a long oblong scarf.

Donna

Go to a garden centre and they should have them for Women.

Madam Rebecca

(Curtsey)
Dear Jack,

What an excellent idea! Thank you.

Love,
Nancy
(Curtsey)

(Curtsey)
Dear Madam Rebecca,

Thank You!

Love,
Nancy
(Curtsey)

(Curtsey)
Dear Donna,

I couldn't bear to treat a scarf in such a cavalier fashion!

Love,
Nancy
(Curtsey)

Baby Girl,

You need a kneeling pad, not knee pads.

You can find some really cute ones at the home gardening shops...

Knee pads will allow you to separate your legs and that makes an unsightly pic from behind.

Little girls should keep their knees together unless otherwise told to do differently...

I hope this suggestion helps you in your search.

All tied up with anticipation,
Annastasiadomme

Nancy 200502.2

447 Teddy Bears
(Curtsey)
Dear Madam Rebecca, Mistresses and sissies,

Madam Rebecca has mentioned several times humiliating Sissie by sending her to bed early in front of guests, but first requiring her to parade herself in her nightie and holding a dolly. On other occasions Sissie has had to play with a dolly in front of guests.

Would a teddy bear be an acceptable alternative? I ask because I routinely sleep with a teddy bear and have done so for over a decade, but it's not a childhood bear.

Yours sincerely,
Cissy Pansy
(Curtsey)

Saturday, 7 February 2009

Nancy 200502.1

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